2024-08 Aug - How do we get to know someone?

Aug 15, 2024 family history turning hearts get to know workflow

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Recent Stake Temple Focus

As you read the following quote about temple service, how has your spirit been uplifted, or additional light and knowledge been received during your recent temple worship?

“The Lord will bless us as we attend to the sacred ordinance work of the temples. Blessings there will not be limited to our temple service. We will be blessed in all of our affairs. We will be eligible to have the Lord take an interest in our affairs both spiritual and temporal. Our labors in the temple cover us with a shield and a protection, both individually and as a people. As you prepare your family history and take names to the temple for your ancestors, you will feel the influence of the Holy Ghost more powerfully in your life. You will be strengthened to do this work and the other tasks of your life more efficiently. As you do the work of the Lord, you will know Him better and become more like Him.” Boyd K. Packer (emphasis added)

What does it mean to get to know someone?

Ponder that for a minute. What did you do that made getting to know another more successful? If we’ve gotten good at it, it might be hard to describe it, but reflect for a minute.

I took action immediately to get to know people. I decided that the key to breaking down the social barriers was to serve.

~ Jane Nickerson, Ensign article, Aug 2012

Get to know them. Learn about their lives, relationships, and circumstances. By doing so, you’ll be able to anticipate their needs and either meet those needs yourself or call on your ward leadership to access additional resources.

Also this:

Make the effort to get to know people beyond superficial details. Recognize that building relationships takes time and sincere effort. ~ Liahona, June 2019

“The only way I get to know my Savior and Heavenly Father,” she wrote, “is by praying and reading about Them in scriptures.”

~ Al and Eva Fry, Ensign article, July 2012

We pray that all may be touched by the Spirit of Elijah and with it a desire to live in families forever. Please turn the hearts of fathers and mothers to their children and turn the hearts of children to their parents.

Open the way for those who are searching out the records of their forbearers. Bless them with the desire to offer the ordinances of salvation and eternal life to their family members. May those who are endowed by Thy power in this house, go forth to the world in faith to offer the gospel of Jesus Christ to others. May all those who are endowed in this house increase in their capacity to testify and teach the gospel of Jesus Christ. May they have confidence that angels will go with them in their determination to carry the blessings of the gospel to others.

~ Dedicatory prayer for the Montreal Quebec Temple, 22 November 2015

For those in the 1800s, not as much is available, but for ancestors in the 1900s and 2000s, FAR MORE sources have been digitized and indexed. And the pace accelerates. Opportunities to get to know our people are increasing. How will we respond?

Some of these sources provide interesting and fun information that can be shared with children for Family Home Evening. Finding it and linking it on Familysearch.org ensures that my children have it available for their children and grandchildren too.

So, after that little journey of applying the pattern of getting to know the living to the dead too, I invite you to both focus on Christ and to get to know your people better. Look at the images of the sources (when available) and see what other little treasures or puzzle pieces you find. This service to your people both in the temple and by solidifying their page on familysearch.org (with more sources as witnesses of their story, their hearts), will bless you by turning your heart to your fathers, and will bless future generations to have more known about their ancestors than you started with.

And in the end, when it is our turn to pass through the veil, perhaps we will know our people better, like I hope I will know our Savior.

Reminder. Current Workflow for Family History:

Similar to being able to take money out of a bank (temple service), we have to put money into a bank first (researching and finding our people on familysearch.org). Think Inputs and Outputs.

  1. Historical people’s information first has to be digitized (others do this).
  2. We index people’s digitized information so the image can be associated with text, which can be found in computer searches.
  3. We link families' data together in FamilySearch.org (each member’s initial target is 4-Generations found and linked. Later we work cousin lines too.)
  4. We link people’s information (source data) to the right person to help us and others to get to know them better.
  5. Then, we can get names to take to the temple and offer them the choice of being linked to their families for eternity in our own pattern of regular temple attendance.
  6. By delving deeper, finding and adding more sources and their small bits about our ancestor’s experiences, we get to know our people, and our hearts turn to them. As more is digitized and indexed, more becomes available. It’s an ongoing and accelerating effort. When are we “done” knowing someone? We can all go beyond the data needed for the temple and get to know our people.
  7. We can bless others by sharing with our immediate family and cousins what we’ve learned about our shared ancestors or kin, helping all of us feel more grounded, knowing where we came from. Potentially helping them to turn their hearts to their fathers too.

Story Time

How many ancestors do we have?

From a news article:

Every person has two parents, four grandparents and eight great-grandparents. Keep doubling back through the generations — 16, 32, 64, 128 — and within a few hundred years you have thousands of ancestors.

My people include thousands. I’m sure yours do too. If it feels like too much, who else in your family may want to help? This is a work where we tithe bits of time towards, more often than we can do it full time while also balancing family, work and other priorities. Walt Disney’s phrase, “Keep Moving Forward” applies to Temple & Family History work too. We can get to know our people and help our kin get to know them better too, if they choose to look to them.

Other studies have concluded that the entire human family on Earth is included when you get to 50th cousins.

When I took history classes in school, I enjoyed the stories about the people more than merely the dates. Perhaps you did too. What story have the puzzle pieces you’ve found hint at or shed light upon? May we all get to know our own people better, in addition to temple worship. I testify that the blessings are worth the effort. They are all God’s children and He knows each of them as he knows you and I. He loves us and this is His work. So he is willing to bless us as we help in this work. May you and your kin be blessed as you dabble or tithe time to this important and fulfilling work as you decide how to allocate your mortal time during this mortal test with its many challenges. Whatever you’re able to do helps move God’s work along. May you have the internal peace that comes in serving the Lord.

As Ward Temple & Family History Consultants we are called to help you with HOW to do these things, the Lord has asked that we all do.

Sincerely, Your Ward Temple & Family History Consultants,

During Stake Family Search Center posted hours, our Ward’s staffing assignments are posted near the hours on the bulletin board next to the Family Search Center door.

(our contact info is in the tools app, or see us in church)